Rich get richer – poor get poorer

http://uk.reuters.com/article/2015/07/15/uk-britain-jobs-idUKKCN0PP0QP20150715

Reading the financial articles such as the one above … I stop to wonder if the powers to be … and everyone else in general are seeing it …

It’s been stated for a while that the rich will get richer and the poor will get poorer … the divide of wealth is going to be even more imbalanced …

Policy maker’s current thinking … such as to raise IR’s to put downward pressure … to address rise in earnings … does it give thought to longer term trending impacts?

While historically monetary policies such as this seem to be do the job … but with trend of this divide … should the brains behind maths/economics/social benefits be looking at other ways to better manage this …

The arguments previously have been, stimulate the economy, promote growth and there is a bigger pie to be shared … but the pie is not being “shared” in many instances … so do those policies, ideas really work … additionally … the “thoughts” that tax revenue will increase as a nation/society gets wealthier … is that reality? … I get the “sense”, that if anything, those who have more find ways to keep more and pay less tax … could it be finding a better way to share that pie, will actually result in higher tax revenue (given most everyday people can’t get away not paying taxes – As in Meet Joe Black – you can be sure of death and taxes) ….

“Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another . . .” —Colossians 3:12–13

From Greg Laurie’s 11th July 2015 devotion ..

Paul reminds us in the Book of Ephesians, “And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you!” (Ephesians 4:30–32 NLT, emphasis added). Is there someone that you need to forgive?

When you forgive someone, you set a prisoner free: yourself!

This Christmas

It may be opportunistic to be posting what I’m about to this time of year ….

For Christmas this year, for our family’s gift exchange, we are sponsoring a child. In Australia, it is approx $48 a month so in a year that’s $576. Divided by the three of us, that would have been roughly what we would have spent on gifts for ourselves. (I’ve specifically chosen organisations who work in DR Congo because of the war atrocities taking place there … will post more on this later).

I have seen so many posts on FB about Christmas present ideas, what to get kids, what to buy the family etc etc … and while I do appreciate and understand the “nice” feeling of opening a gift … think of how long that feeling actually lasts … what’s worse, think of all the kris kringle / secret santa $10/$20 presents bought, which are generally junk, or used only once … then put away to collect dust or given to charity shops in a few months/weeks time?

I’m all up for giving … but I guess I want to perhaps send a challenge to this generation out there, of selfies, and vanity, and “must have” looks?clothes?toys?games?cars?houses? … and ask yourself how much would you MISS one or two of those items …. and rather than receiving those (or giving those), ask for a child to be sponsored, or ask for a donation to be made to a crisis appeal … or even when giving a gift, what if you gave a receipt of a charity you gave the same amount to, as you would have spent on that novelty “item” …. I guess if I received one of those, I’d be overjoyed.

Oh, and to solve the problem of giving something they can keep, make some cookies :).

Merry Christmas.

In His name,

xo

Children are blessing/burden??

It’s not only until I had my bub, did I see/recognise how much my parents have influenced how I think and the person I had become … and how dangerous that actually is …. (the “power” we have as parents”)

For the as long as I could remember, my mother would share her views about having children with me, which were largely that children were hard work, and she would never want more than on because of the pain of child birth, that life was hard so bringing and other life into this world was going to be a struggle for both the mother and the child … just all round negative considerations of having children.

(I’d like to add here, that my mother isn’t a horrible person, and I know she did not mean to just focus on the negative as such, but that is her view. I don’t doubt she loves me very much and has no regrets about having me. Funnily, she would tell me how much she had always wanted and thought of having a family of her own, despite having those views.)

Looking back to who I was in my mid to late twenties, I remember thinking that I didn’t want children, and I vividly remember siting that life was hard, and it was simply selfish to bring a child into this world because ultimately the people that want children are doing it for their own selfish reasons (either to have a little person that carried forward a part of them, or in the Chinese tradition – someone to look after them as they got older). It’s scary enough to hear those words, but what’s scarier (for me) is that I genuinely believed it … that children were nothing but a burden on a person, and that there is no real GOOD reason why we should have a child, let alone more than one.

Whilst it’s easy to “blame” other’s for how we were raised, ultimately we are our own thinking individuals, with the ability to challenge ideas and thoughts …. although, admittedly it is much harder to challenge those ideas when you haven’t seen a different version of it (being an only child, I didn’t see what it was  like to have a child introduced into the family, and being far away from cousins etc, didn’t really get to experience any other families).

So what am I trying to say? …. I guess I’m pondering about how (or if we can) “break” such a cycle … I guess I take comfort in trusting that the source of “truth” which I am trying to life my life, and as an example/witness to my bub, is God’s law, His words, His directions, His reasons ultimately His purpose.

Children are a blessing, and a gift from God. Family’s are a blessing if He has decided that is what you will have in the short time you have on this earth before going to our forever home’s with him.

It has also made me think twice (or at least on occasions reflect) on what I am actually “showing” to my child, what will she see/hear/understand/assume from what I say, do, think and feel.

It doesn’t make it any easier though, we by nature are sinners (we are faulty to say the least), how often our thoughts/actions/words are disobedient to God, and by that I mean, not loving as he has commanded us to do.

So today I pray…. “Dear Father, I thank you for the Holy Spirit, for your Grace … because without it, we wold have no chance at all to be a different person, to change from our ways, to get closer to what is right, not just for those we love here on this earth, but for your glory. Forgive me Father, for the times I fail so miserably and hurt not only those around me, but you in my disobedience and rejection of you. Amen”

Try it

People search … but never find … because they’re seeking only what they know … or unwilling to challenge what they’re uncomfortable with … ??? … He is the truth, love and answer … try it on, what do you have to lose vs how much you have to gain. ❤

Our generation of women …

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I was just about to go bed … as most of us do, we check FB updates as one of the things we do before we sleep … (yes yes, I know I know … I won’t comment on that now … ) 

There was a post where a lady was sharing/venting about her relationship (it was anonymous … ). She was describing his behaviour which in summary was unromatic, unemotionally supportive. She was sick – pregnant, with a young toddler and when she asked for husband for as she was just at her wits end, her husband dismissed her request angrily. She prefaced her post by stating that he is a good provider and a great father.

It wasn’t her post that made my get out of bed to write this … but her post combined with some of the comments she received from the other women in the group did.

… let me just say, some of them were very sensible, recommending relationship books, counselling, communication etc …  

I found it interesting that in her post, she noted that he was a good provider and a great father. In 2014 a woman with a 2 year old and pregnant again would put her as someone aged between twenty something to forty something (at the latest). She is in a first world country. I also note, she is fluent with English (the post was articulate) which would then assume she’s had opportunities for education, and opportunities to participate in the workforce … but failing that, she would have access to social security if there was a rough patch. So I found it surprising that after all the “progress” that has been made in “liberating” women, it appears that there is still an expectation that a “good” man is one who will be the provider for the family. After the initial “shock”, I guess that’s something I can grasp, cause why wouldn’t that be better than one that can’t especially since the cost of living is escalating at a ridiculous pace, and most women would prefer to care for their babies without the pressure of returning to work sooner than they’re ready to …

However, what I really struggled with, was the suggestions the post received to simply grateful that her husband wasn’t an alcoholic,  that he wasn’t a gambler, that he wasn’t on benefits, that he wasn’t abusive, that he hasn’t cheated on her … basically saying, be thankful as there are worse men out there. 

That made me slightly sick to my stomach … while I appreciate the sentiment of what they are trying to say (that is, there are, or should be, good qualities in her husband that she should value and appreciate, and perhaps focus on to provide perspective at this particular time) … suggesting that she hasn’t scraped the barrel and therefore should just deal with it doesn’t settle very well with me.

While I agree with doing whatever you can to make a marriage work … what I sense from some of the comments is almost an “old school” idea or concept that women should be thankful if a man is willing to take her, and provide and be a father. That having “that” is better than “not”.  

Perhaps, I’m a little lofty/naive … but in my opinion, man (or a woman) is only really a “good” provider, if he (or she) provides not what money can buy, but what money can’t …. and one is really only a good father (or good mother), if one recognises that the mother (or father) of his  (or her) child needs a good husband (or wife), to be the best mother (or father) she (or he) can be. 

It actually makes me a little sad, to think that some women, stay silent, stay in unhealthy circumstances, put-up with continuous pain and sadness all because they think that is better than not having a man, “a family”.

I believe there are two parts of God’s message on marriage, man shall love his wife as he would himself, wives to submit to their husbands … and ultimately a central focus of serving and bring Glory to God (not a focus on one self). Unfortunately, it appears in our generation, like so many things, we have picked the bits of the message rather than the full message. 

From God’s Grace

CC

God calling me back

I had been thinking of a post which could summarise what had happened recently in my life (well the last 5 years), but I had struggled to do so. I don’t think my heart was truly in the right place before, and whatever I would have written would be have been to serve my self rather than what I really wanted to achieve, which is the share God’s work, love, and power in my life. Today, bub had an unusually long nap, which gave me time to spend a decent time with God, listening to his word. I often use Greg Laurie (or Harvest broadcasts, as I can listen rather than read). I also use Pastor Tom from Drive time devotions. (See my earlier post on these two). I had been meaning to write to both these people to thank them for their ministry and encourage them by sharing my story. Writing to both of them, has allowed me to write down my story with the right focus, so now I am able to post it here.

God answers prayer, and always always always wants to have His children return to Him. I am so thankful for the ministry of Pastor Greg and Tom, and for the people out there committed to sharing and distributing God’s message. I am thankful every day that God loves me, and he never gave up on me …..

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